Confidence is a big thing in writing. Without some self-belief, the whole thing will fall apart, and you’ll find yourself never completing your work. I’ve talked about the importance of writing confidence in the past, and how ability and enjoyment both contribute towards eventual success.
But how can one be confident? There’s a difference between confidence and arrogance. Arrogance is a blind belief based on an inflated sense of self-importance. Confidence, on the other hand, is a belief in the quality of your work and the strength of your abilities. Sure, you might not be Shakespeare (who is?), but you know how to tell a good story, right?
The first step to a more confident and positive outlook to writing involves cutting out those thoughts that create failure. Imagine two hypothetical pitches – one brimming with belief and desire, the other hesitant and uncertain. The first person could be shaking with nerves and still deliver a more convincing account of their book than the second.
I’m very interested in words and the power of language to create certain connotations and emotions. It’s amazing to consider the sheer power difference achieved by, say, cutting the ‘t’ off the end of ‘can’t’. But anyway, I digress.
Here are three thoughts to cut out of your writing life. Three thoughts that breed failure. Three thoughts that will stop you from writing and selling your book.
1. I’m not a good enough writer
This is a natural thought that all writers experience. I’m almost certain that Tolkien or Orwell probably had the same thoughts one day when they sat down to write. It’s natural to question our abilities.
But it’s important to crush this question as soon as possible.
Can I let you in on a secret? My first drafts are absolutely abysmal from a technical standpoint. The writing quality is of a standard a few years behind myself, the grammar is all over the place, and the manuscript is often riddled with typos and inconsistencies.
But that doesn’t mean that I lack writing confidence. Instead, I accept it, and sort it out in the rewrite.
No first draft is publishable, unless you edit every word as you go along, and even then there will probably be larger problems with the text. Just give yourself permission to write poorly in the first draft, as Alan Watt argues, as it is more important to just get the story down at this stage than to worry about correcting errors.
The saying goes that one can’t polish a shit. In writing, as long as you’ve got a good idea that stretches over 80-100k words, you can polish it all you like.
2. My idea isn’t good enough
Another writing confidence crisis often comes from a lack of belief in an idea. If you doubt your idea, then it probably will end up not so great after all. Doubt creates failure. But the beauty of it is, it’s easier to switch doubt off than you may think.
If you’re in the business of ‘coming up with ideas’ as a process, which I’m not, then just throw everything that comes into your head down on paper. Don’t judge any. The second you think, ‘oh, that’s a terrible idea’, you’re doing it wrong. Just get them down, and put them away for a while.
When you return to them, the good ideas will immediately stand tall above the not-so-good ones. Pursue an idea you are intrigued in. Create a rough plan for writing to follow loosely. If it’s coherent, it’s a good idea.
In writing, there are no ‘marks’ or ‘grades’. Sure, there are reviews, but don’t worry about those just yet. Let your positivity and determination shine through. If you believe in your best idea and pursue that belief, you’ll get a book written. If you doubt your idea, you’ll probably suffer a crisis of confidence and fail. It really is as simple as that.
3. I don’t have enough time to write
Want to know something about time? Time is an illusion. Not in a sci-fi, Matrixy sort of way, but in the way that we distribute it to certain tasks.
Say you work a 9-5 job. That’s a pretty full schedule, especially if you have to get kids ready before school and end up exhausted at the end of the day. Your targets are going to be different to someone who say, lives alone and gets a few days off per week. You might aim for 500 words per day. Maybe just 250.
But that’s absolutely fine, just as long as you acknowledge that you do have some writing time. If it means getting up half an hour earlier in the morning, then do it. You’ll find yourself settling into a new routine, and it’ll benefit your life in general.
If it becomes too much, change your writing time, or even day. There is a myth that every successful writer writes daily, but I doubt even the people who invent those myths follow that practice.
Basically, cut out the belief that you don’t have the time to write, or you’ll probably end up using the time you could be writing in for something else. Create a schedule. Map things out. Eventually, you’ll find a way to make writing a part of your life, and wonder where those doubts ever crept up from.
Which writing confidence struggles have you encountered, and how did you defeat them? Are there any doubts you still find yourself struggling with at the moment?
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Great post, Ryan and succinctly summed-up. We writers are a curious breed, with vascillating emotions and reams of wild self-talk. Sometimes, it is helpful to be reminded of the basics.
Thanks for the comment, Meredith! Glad you enjoyed it. You’re right – our minds are funny old things at times. Sometimes it just takes a few little pointers to put ourselves back on the right track.
Good points as always, Ryan.
I have just nominated you for the Most Helpful Blogger award as a thank-you for all your great advice.
So I have just seen, Andrew!
Thanks very much. It’s really humbling to receive such nominations. Please keep in touch and keep in the loop on the progress of your works!
Ryan.
I conquered the “I’m not good enough” and “my idea isn’t good enough” demons in the past year – mostly through finding friends and beta readers who have said, “You are good enough.” But time, oh time. I’m one of those 9-5, kids-in-the-morning people. But I’ve shifted my writing to Sunday nights. I take my laptop to martial arts and write while the kids are in class. I’m a bit anti-social that way, but hey, you’ve gotta make sacrifices. =)
I totally agree that finding writing friends and beat readers is a brilliant way to exorcise those demons. Sometimes, all we need to hear is, ‘look, your work is good, alright?!’ to shut them up.
I also agree that time is the hardest one to deal with, as it is probably the least ‘superficial’ of these three confidence blocks. Finding a time that works for you as an individual can be tricky, but once you do find that time, habits are quick to form.
Number 2 is something that gets me from time to time; I like putting symbols and metaphor into my writing, and often wonder if people will pick up on it, or even care. I’ve come to the conclusion that it doesn’t matter; if they pick it up, it adds something, and if they don’t, they won’t know.
I also struggled with my Ideas in my current work; I was really excited about one of the stories, but when i finished it I thought it was a ridiculous and confusing premise. Then I got it back from editing, and subtle changes made it a lot clearer–I think it’s decent offering now.